I was going through my pile of unopened emails from FlyLady when I came across one that just really struck a chord with me and got me thinking.
It was all about how damaging it is to keep re-capping an old hurt and how freeing it is to make the decision to move on. I have had friends in my life who held a special place in my heart, and for some reason or another they have decided that they have no room for me in their life, or sometimes I guess you just drift apart. However it happens, it really does leave a big hole in your heart when they are gone.
Have you ever noticed that when something starts to heal it can get itchy? I think that's what happens to us sometimes when we are healing from something intangible like a broken heart. As we start to heal, something reminds us of what happened (that's the itch) and if we go scratch it, we re-open the wound.
As we start to heal, there is a sort of itching to keep it going and re-reading a poem, or listening to a song is like scratching the scab off of a healing wound. If you've ever had an itchy rash, you know how good it feels at the time to scratch it! However, after you've enjoyed the scratching of the itch you are in trouble because you have reversed the healing process.
The best way to handle an itch (I am an expert on this one) is to distract the itch with some activity that gets your mind off it. I have found that going to the gym, doing something physical or even craft helps.
So my goal this year is to let go of old hurts, and move on. I am going to focus on me, my health and my family. I am going to spend my time and energy on the people who love me. The people who are here!
I suppose that even though I didn't make a new years resolution (let's face it, how often do we stick to them anyway?) this sounds a lot like one huh!